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Violent Humanity

Published on October 6, 2011

The list of countries and cities disintegrating or unraveling because of violence, economic and political turmoil, lack of food and civil unrest is growing. Human violence is a very important subject at this particular moment in time. Violence has always been a basic part of human nature and we have a lot to be ashamed of.

It is a shame to find out that the most dangerous place for women and children is actually in their own homes—homes being the place where we actually find the most violence. Family life in our insane civilization has turned into a nightmare for way too many people, but then again we have had the same problems throughout history.

In the first part of this essay we will talk about the violence happening out there but at the end we will come back full circle to the many forms of intimate violence that betrays and abuses our deepest vulnerabilities. One would be astounded at the spectrum of human violence and how well that violence can be hidden. Some of the cruelest, most violent men in history are actually the ones who started the war on drugs—a war destined to destroy not only huge segments of society but entire nations as well.

Mexico is a nightmare of unprecedented dimensions unfolding in America’s own backyard. Mexico is descending into a bottomless pit of drug violence and civil war. Nearly a dozen people were shot to death in the Pacific coast resort of Acapulco. Authorities in the central state of Mexico arrested a suspected drug-gang leader who confessed to directly carrying out 300 homicides and ordering 600 others.

Governments & Cruelty

Syrian security forces swept through neighborhoods in a restive central city firing machine guns and pulling people from their homes in a series of arrests and killings. On the last day of July 2011, Syrian tanks, firing shells and machineguns, stormed the city of Hama on Sunday, killing 80 civilians. The Syrian president is just one more madman who thinks he has the right to have his men going around killing hundreds upon hundreds of people as the rest of the world watches in pathetic silence.

Two weeks later on Sunday, August 14, 2011, Syrian gunboats firing heavy machine guns pounded impoverished districts of Latakia, killing at least 19 people in a renewed assault on the Mediterranean coastal city, activists said. As the gunships blasted waterfront districts, ground troops backed by tanks and security agents stormed several neighborhoods. The sharp crackle of machine-gun fire and loud explosions could be heard across the city. Now the bullets are raining down on the people of Yemen.

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Don’t get too comfortable—one day this kind of violence could come to a city near you. Even if you live in the first world and only have the occasional madman running around shooting people, someday it could be the police, national guard, homeland security, FEMA and even the army doing much the same.

Last month a riot tore through parts of north London’s deprived Tottenha neighborhood casting a pall over Britain’s capital. Eight officers were hospitalized during the rampage, with rioters torching a double-decker bus, destroying patrol cars and trashing a shopping mall. “This is just a glimpse into the abyss,” former Metropolitan Police Commander John O’Connor told Sky News television Sunday.

Thousands of rioters took to the streets in China, with some smashing and burning vehicles, after a city official injured a female cyclist. Last month, hundreds of people in another southern Chinese city rioted after a policeman was reported to have beaten up a one-legged fruit seller. The seller, who had apparently protested against the confiscation of his cart for illegal parking, later died of his injuries. Sino Daily

Prime Minister Jens Stoltenberg said about the shooting massacre in Norway, “A paradise island has been transformed into a hell.” Erik Kursetgjerde described the panic on Utoeya when the gunman began shooting, “I heard screams. I heard people begging for their lives and I heard shots. He just blew them away. The killer, dressed as a policeman, would tell people to come over: ‘It’s okay, you’re safe, we’re coming to help you.’ And then I saw about 20 people come toward him and he shot them at close range.”

Some Hate Love

In an Afghan love story that flouted dominant traditions of arranged marriages and close family scrutiny, a romance between two teenagers of different ethnicities brought the beastly side out of these kids’ families and neighbors. A group of men spotted the couple riding together in a car, yanked them into the road and began to interrogate the boy and girl. Why were they together? What right had they? An angry crowd of 300 surged around them, calling them adulterers and demanding that they be stoned to death or hanged.

When security forces swooped in and rescued the couple, the mob’s anger exploded. They overwhelmed the local police, set fire to cars and stormed a police station. The riot, which lasted for hours, ended with one man dead, a police station charred and the two teenagers, Halima Mohammedi and her boyfriend, Rafi Mohammed, confined to juvenile prison. Ms. Mohammedi’s uncle visited her in jail to say she had shamed the family and promised that they would kill her once she was released.

Understanding Violence

Dr. Aletha Solter, Ph.D., founder and director of the Aware Parenting Institute says, “There are two basic conditions that produce violent tendencies in human beings. One condition is that the person has been hurt. A child who is spanked, hit, beaten, or threatened with violence will have a tendency to become violent himself. Sexual abuse and emotional neglect are also hurts that can lead to violent tendencies. The accumulation of minor hurts (stress) can lead to violent behavior as well. The anxieties, disappointments, and frustrations of childhood can build up and cause a child to hit or bite.

“The second basic condition is less well understood. The person has not been allowed to release the emotions resulting from the hurts. He has unresolved and unexpressed feelings about what he has experienced. Only then will he have a tendency to be violent towards others. Being the victim of violence and other distressing experiences breeds violence in the child only when the emotions are blocked and repressed. When this situation occurs, violence toward self or others is almost an inevitable outcome. Violence is a distorted expression of the person’s rage or terror in an environment where it is not safe to reveal or release strong feelings,” continued Solter.

Violence is tolerated and even glorified in most industrialized countries and is culturally linked to “appropriate” male behavior.

One of the greatest hidden forms of violence is the mass drugging of children. Yet it’s perpetrated within schools, doctors’ offices, foster homes and juvenile facilities daily.

Dr. John Monahan, Ph.D., Psychologist and Professor, School of Law, University of Virginia-Charlottesville, asks why so many Americans are afraid to walk home alone at night. He says, “Many biological factors have been nominated as candidates for causes of violence. Hormones like testosterone, transmitters in the brain like serotonin, and blood abnormalities like hypoglycemia are only a few that have been mentioned. Biological factors do not have to be hereditary. They could be caused by a head injury, poor nutrition, or environmental events, such as exposure to lead paint. Compared with Japan, a nation of roughly comparable industrialization with cities much more crowded than ours, the U.S. homicide rate is over five times higher, the rape rate is 22 times higher, and the armed robbery rate is an astounding 114 times higher.”

To prevent violence, we must first, stop perpetrating violence on children. This means no spanking or hitting. It is important to know that children need the most love and attention when they act the least deserving of it. – Dr. Aletha Solter

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When we begin to look at domestic violence we can see what brutes we humans can be.

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Violence against women (or children) manifests as physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, isolation, and threats:

Physical Abuse

  • Pushing or shoving a woman
  • Holding or keeping her from leaving
  • Slapping or biting her
  • Kicking, choking, hitting, or punching her
  • Refusing to help a woman when she is sick, injured, or pregnant
  • Threatening or hurting her with a weapon

Sexual Abuse

  • Forcing a woman to strip when she does not want to
  • Having affairs with others after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
  • Forcing a woman to have unwanted sex with others or forcing her to watch others having sex
  • Forcing sex after a beating
  • Forcing sex when she is sick or when it endangers her health
  • Forcing sex for the purpose of hurting her with objects or weapons

Emotional Abuse

  • Ignoring a woman’s feelings
  • Continually criticizing her, calling her names, shouting at her
  • Humiliating her in public or privately
  • Refusing to socialize with her
  • Keeping her from working, controlling her money, making all decisions
  • Manipulating her with lies and contradictions
  • Threatening to kidnap the child(ren) if she leaves
  • Harassing her about affairs the abuser imagines she is having

Isolation

  • Stopping a woman from going to visit her relatives and friends
  • Confining her to the house
  • Stopping her from socialising with others

Threat

  • Threatening to kill a woman
  • Threatening to take her child(ren) away
  • Threatening her that he will commit suicide

Physical Violence

Physical violence occurs when someone uses a part of their body or an object to control your actions. Physical violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Pushing
  • Shoving
  • Pinning or holding a person down
  • Confinement
  • Pinching
  • Hair-pulling
  • Slapping
  • Punching
  • Arm twisting
  • Kicking
  • Biting
  • Strangling
  • Choking
  • Burning
  • Overmedication
  • Assault with an object or weapon
  • Threats with an object or weapon
  • Stabbing
  • Murder

Sexual Violence

Sexual violence occurs when someone forces you to take part in sexual activity when you do not want to. Sexual violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Touching you in a sexual manner against your will (i.e. kissing, grabbing, fondling)
  • Forced sexual intercourse
  • Forcing you to perform sexual acts you find degrading or painful
  • Use of a weapon to make you comply with a sexual act
  • Beating sexual parts of your body
  • Exhibitionism (need to expose body parts to others)
  • Denial of a woman’s sexuality
  • Humiliating, criticizing or trying to control a woman’s sexuality
  • Denial of sexual information and education (i.e. birth control)
  • Withholding sexual affection
  • Exposure to AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections
  • Forced abortion or sterilization
  • Forced prostitution
  • Unfounded allegations of promiscuity and/or infidelity

Emotional Violence

Emotional violence occurs when someone says or does something to make you feel stupid or worthless. Emotional violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Name calling
  • Constant criticism
  • Blaming all relationship problems on you
  • Humiliating or belittling you in front of others
  • Using silent treatment
  • Confinement to the home
  • Not allowing you to have contact with family and friends
  • Destroying possessions
  • Threats
  • Jealousy
  • Intimidation
  • Stalking
  • Threatening to take the children
  • Threatening to commit suicide

Psychological Violence

Psychological violence occurs when someone uses threats and causes fear in you to gain control. Psychological violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Threatening to harm you, your children or your family if you leave
  • Threatening to harm themselves
  • Threats of violence
  • Threats of abandonment
  • Destruction of your personal property
  • Social isolation from your family and friends
  • Confinement to the home
  • Verbal aggression
  • Constant humiliation

Spiritual Violence

Spiritual violence occurs when someone uses your religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate, dominate, or control you. Spiritual violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Trying to prevent you from practicing your religious or spiritual beliefs
  • Making fun of your religious or spiritual beliefs
  • Forcing you to raise your children in another religion or spiritual choice
  • Using your religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate, dominate or control you

Cultural Violence

Cultural violence occurs when you are harmed as a result of practices condoned by your culture, religion or tradition. Cultural violence includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Female circumcision
  • Rape-marriage
  • Sexual slavery
  • Honour crimes (acts of murder in which “a woman is killed for her actual or perceived immoral behavior”)

Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse occurs when someone uses language, whether spoken or written, to cause you harm. Verbal abuse includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Constant criticism
  • Cursing
  • Name calling
  • Repeated insults
  • Recalling your past mistakes
  • Expressing negative expectations
  • Expressing distrust
  • Threats of violence against you, your children or other family members
  • For immigrants, threats of deportation if you decide to leave.

Financial Abuse

Financial abuse occurs when someone controls your financial resources without your consent. Financial abuse includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Destruction of your personal property
  • Not allowing you to attend school
  • Forcing you to work outside the home
  • Refusing to let you work outside the home
  • Controlling your choice of occupation
  • Forbidding you to have access to the family income and bank accounts
  • Giving you an allowance and requiring justification for all money spent
  • Taking money needed for the care of the family
  • Refusal to contribute financially to family
  • Denying access to basic needs such as food and health care

Neglect

Neglect occurs when someone has the responsibility to provide care or assistance for you but does not. Neglect includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • Not paying your bills
  • Not providing needed medication, food, shelter or clean clothing

Pharmaceutical-induced violence

In 2006, David Crespi, a former banking executive with no criminal record or history of violence, killed his twin five-year-old daughters, stabbing them multiple times with a kitchen knife. Crespi was taking Prozac when he killed his daughters, along with the sleeping pill Ambien.

Modern psychiatry’s love affair with pharmaceutical drugs has turned psychiatrists into killers. Psychiatric medications are known to cause extremely violent thoughts and behavior in young males. Ten percent of Americans over age six take antidepressants.

In the United States we have seen similar shootings by men with a history of treatment with psychotropic drugs—typically SSRI antidepressants. These shootings have three things in common: 1) the shooters are young males, 2) the shooters exhibit a mind-numbed disconnect with reality, 3) the shooters have a history of taking psychiatric medications.

An estimated 2.2 million Americans are hospitalized each year for adverse drug reactions. Over 100,000 die from them.

Violence is normal for our race though most of it is hidden from plain sight. I am afraid that we are going into a new Dark Age where violence will grow exponentially again as it has before. The police and security forces around the world have trained heavily this past decade preparing for civil violence and disobedience. What will we do to protect our families?

Most of us fail miserably when it comes to protecting our loved ones from the violence of the main institutions of civilization, from governments and companies who love to bring harm to others with their poisons. Ninety percent of parents cannot even utter a cry of protest as the pediatric doctors inject vaccines laced with dangerous heavy metals and toxic chemicals. How many Americans understand and complain about the violence of water fluoridation? Somehow we have left ourselves vulnerable to massive abuse and violence.

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  • Derek

    I see violence (absence of love) as THE primary handicap for our success as a species. And such violence must include the cruelties inflicted by Wall Street, agribusiness & governments everywhere acting with bone-headed earnestness (or malicious intent) against the interests of people, all life on the planet and the planet itself.

    In light of the ubiquity of this blight, I got a disquieting feeling in reading the above essay. As a male member of the species, I know how troublesome stupid, or simply maladjusted male behavior can be. But violence comes in many forms and when it comes to violence against children, I would suggest that violence by women – sometimes physical but more often psychological can not be ignored.

    The home is the incubator or our future and just being female does not a good mother make. I suspect the damage done by a bad mother might be some of the worst there is. It is not all about men although this in no way is meant to excuse men behaving badly. Just seeking some balance.

  • Jenna

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    • Claudia – IMVA Staff

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  • Willaru

    Dr. Sircus states that, “Violence has always been a basic part of human nature and we have
    a lot to be ashamed of.
    and that, “Violence is normal for our race….”

    But this is simply not true. What Laura writes below (Oct. 14, 2011) is correct: the
    archeological record shows that, for most of our existence as Homo sapiens, we lived in
    relative harmony with ourselves, each other, and the rest of Nature.

    For more about this (and for a very good read), see “The Fall: The Evidence for a Golden
    Age, 6,000 Years of Insanity, and the Dawning of a New Era” by Steve Taylor. (FWIW, it’s
    also been highly recommended by Eckhart Tolle, author of “Power of Now.”) “The Fall” is a
    highly readable yet thoroughly researched and documented study of humanity’s ‘fall’ from
    harmony to strife, beginning around 4,000 BCE and continuing up to the present day.

    Around 4,000 BCE, abrupt climate change centering on North Africa apparently turned what
    had been like a paradise into today’s Sahara Desert. However, it was not agricultural
    societies that began the warfare. Over just a few generations, the rapid desertification
    twisted many of the region’s indigenous, pastoral (animal-herding) tribes into raiding,
    looting, enslaving, and killing those of bordering tribes, which eventually forced victim
    tribes into similar behavior, and so the pattern began and the domino-like waves of
    invasions began of other parts of the world.

    While heavily agricultural societies did have their own dysfunctions—such as poorer
    health—warfare was not one of them until the invasions began and they were destroyed,
    conquered, or became twisted themselves out of a sense of self-preservation.

    This cultural twist also basically jumpstarted the patriarchy system, as well as our
    modern day’s ‘ego mind’ with its ceaseless chatter and need to always grind away at
    problems, real or imagined, in a never-ending, fear-based attempt to stay one step ahead
    of danger. Those who have created, maintained, and maneuvered themselves into positions of power over the rest of us ever since then have done so, to a great extent, by creating, maintaining, and manipulating these fears.

    For a shorter summary of what it was like ‘pre-Fall’, Google for an article by Steve
    Taylor called “Before the Fall: Evidence for a Golden Age.”

    Also Google fpr the article “Back to Paradise” by Richard Heinberg, which comes to very
    similar conclusions.

    The book “Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” by Christopher Ryan
    and Cacilda Jetha (especially chapter 13: ‘The Never-ending Battle Over Prehistoric War’)
    also presents documented evidence about the issue of violence/warfare not being an
    ingrained part of ‘human nature.’

    What becomes obvious is that the evidence clearly indicates that it is NOT ‘basic human
    nature’ to be violent and warlike against others or Nature in general. The very opposite
    is true, in fact, including for various current-day indigenous tribes that have maintained
    their harmonious lives since prehistoric times.

    Readers are encouraged to find out more about this issue and spread the word. If we could
    be that way before, we can certainly be that way today and into the future, as well.

  • Luther G. Brossa

    One of the components that was overlooked in this analysis of perpetrators of violence (though it was indirectly alluded to), is the sense of frustration that builds within, when we witness injustices. We’ve all seen examples of individuals who espouse violent solutions to intolerable acts. These ‘solutions’ have often come from our own mouths! When society begins to reinstate the idea of justice for all, maybe then we’ll find ourselves more moderated in our sense of tolerance towards others. Until then, the rage will only build, with the result of its ugliness being vented on innocents…

  • Lisa

    The bit at the end regarding pharmaceutical violence brought two things to mind:

    — I used to be a search and rescue volunteer, and we would often get called to search for people described as “despondent.” Most of these people succeeded in killing themselves before we were called to look for them. Anecdotally, it seems that most of these people were white males over 40 years old that had been taking antidepressants.

    — For Firefly / Serenity fans: Reavers. We’re creating our own Reavers.

    • Gilgamesh

      There are many prescription drugs, that causes anxiety . and depression, but the doctors just prescribe more drugs, instead of natural amino acids, like Gaba , Taurine, L- theanine, B vitamin etc, as most antidepressant prescription drugs make Gaba anyway.
      But the problem is that most people and doctors would not know the dosage, they may prescribe 1-2 hundred mg, but to be effective, may need 4-8 thousand mg, or anything.
      So if people take just a low dosage it will do nothing, and they will use the prescription drugs.

  • sledge

    Wow, I feel so inferior. I haven’t advanced to a higher intellectual level like most of you seem to have. Just a simple man with simple thoughts.

    My thoughts are if a “man” beats or abuses a woman or child he desperately needs another man to stomp the living crap out of him for being an ass.

    If a “man” doesn’t restrain a woman from beating or abusing him he desperately needs another man to stomp the living crap out of him for being an idiot.

    Why has our society gone down the tubes? Because we don’t have enough “men” who are willing to man the f up! Men are all “evolved” now.

    Seems pretty simple to me.

    • elvira walker

      Personally, I agree with your simple thought. Very understandable.

  • Matt

    Financial abuse should include what the Banks and lenders have done to our society. Purposefully creating inflation that steals from our wealth. Measly return on interest bearing account while they turn around and change double digit interest rates on credit cards. Predatory loans that duped many to purchase homes beyond their means. The financial devastion they created on our society has torn families apart.

  • Tim

    Fascinated to hear that the majority of men are circumcised. Never knew this; but is it true ?
    Regardless of this, the primary problem with people is that they generally are too weak to think for themselves and to act accordingly. The educational system is specifically designed, not to teach you how to think, rather what to think. It is an instrument of social control rather than social enlightenment. It has been deliberately and with malice aforethought designed by the banking families which have corrupted society for their own evil purposes. If someone pays your wages, you will do as they tell you, especially if you are surrounded by other numbskulls also doing as they are told. You will recreate patterns of behaviour glorified endlessly by the media which surrounds you. Henry Ford stated quite openly that he did not require people who could think, but people who could push levers and press buttons.This is also the military mindset. So a few people with lots of money, at the top, can buy allegiance. Mr Crespi, we are told, had no criminal record or history of violence. But he was a former banking executive. These are the most violent people on Earth, and the ones ultimately responsible for unleashing this violence from the Pandora’s Box they have opened. They have unleashed it in Iraq, Afghanistan, and most recently in Libya. Iran will follow. We have been told much about the violence perpetrated against women by men; we should also be aware of the violence perpetrated against tens of thousands of both sexes by liars and psychopaths such as the woman who is ex-President Clinton’s wife. I won’t even name her. The Tottenham situation was fuelled by thousands of mainly black youths who have been deliberately thrown onto the scrapheap of society by loathesome politicians of all classes, themselves acknowledged thieves and liars, who engineered the riots in order to create a situation whereby the naive and mostly white public then call for greater police powers, and the further rolling-out of a Fascist State, which you also now have in place in the US via the various actual or virtual Patriot Acts, and in the UK in the form of the Civil Contingencies Act. Both of which were written and ready-to-go before the situations arose which they were allegedly introduced in response to.
    The drug violence in Mexico has arisen not out of the unfathomable wickedness of Man’s heart, but out of the deliberate provision of thousands of weapons to the drug gangs by the FBI. The operation is called “Fast and Furious”. The intention, once again, has been engineered by the banking elite who control US policy, in order to 1. Generate a desire in the public mind to strip away the right to bear arms, and 2. To generate a call for greater powers to be given to the “Law Enforcement” agencies of whatever alphabetical stripe, who will then find it far easier to enforce the New World Order on the defenceless citizenry. This plan calls for a global reduction in population of 6.5 billion souls, in the near future. Look at Global Governance 2025, put out by the Rockefeller Institute if you do not believe me.
    Clearly, this wickedness can only flourish in a world where Man is a sinner, as already indicated by earlier posters. We are, however, entering into a period of turmoil which will be replaced by a thousand-year period of Christ’s rule on Earth. During this period, those of us who remain will see how things could have been on this Earth, had Adam and Eve not heeded the words of “That great Serpent, the Devil, or Satan”

  • Joan Lulich

    Please, take me off of your mailing list. Since I have learned about energy work and how damaging our thoughts are, I don’t want to read anymore of your sensationalism. I now, handle all problems energetically with Chinese Energetics/Yuen Method. You might look into it. Many of your writings give it more life. The only way the world will make a shift if is one is non-judgmental, non-reactionary and neutral in order to neutralize all of the misinformation and atrocities.

  • Lack of diagnostic tools in society to locate psychopaths is a major reason of domestic violence and terror in society. About 4% of population is considered to be psychopath. In governments on the highest positions of power one find an excessive percentage of psychopaths. Particulare serious is the situation when the leader (president, premier, dictator, captain of industrie, minister) is a psychopath. Proper diagnosis could detect these individuals and take them out of the position of power. Schizophrenes, psychotic personalities, manic depressive persons are commonly not in the highest ranks of power, so why psychopaths do? http://www.ponerology.com

    • Jenny Goddard

      I totally agree with Hans de Jonge, having read the book and an understanding of the mind of these people, you can see how they gravitate toward powerful positions.
      But many also are ordinary people.

  • Kevin Lyons

    We are born with a sin nature and require salvation. This is the essence of every one of us. Jesus Christ said he is our salvation, if we trust in Him to save us. What do you believe … is Christ a liar, a lunatic, or our Lord and Savior as he said he was? What does the historical evidence show? What do you believe?

  • lisa

    I agree with most everything I read here…except (and if you do your research you will find that its truth) that spanking IS NOT a form of abuse. Statistics show the children brought up in LOVING disciplined homes do not have violent tendancies. It is only when spanking is done violently, repeatedly, and without warrant that spanking is considered abusive. Healthy, loving and age appropriate spanking has been PROVEN to generate more well balanced and NON-violent people. This lack of tender/loving discipline is one reason we have such problems…no discipline in the form of spanking has been PROVEN to aid in violent behavior.
    Just keeping it real…gotta get all the facts before ya present to public perview such statements…to be a person of the kind of integrity this world lacks so badly now.
    Thanks for this article though…as I said 90% of it was right on the money..

    • elvira walker

      Yes, in a way I agree. Spanking never hurts a child. It is only when the spanking becomes abusive, and the reasoning for the spanking is lost. In our family, spanking is only administered, for absolutely bad, bad behavior, which is hardly ever. Most of the time, we use the “time out” method, where they are sent to their room to read, and learn. TV is not allowed at that time. When they can understand the reason for this time out, we then talk about it, and it is then forgiven. Works quite well in our family.

  • good article. i love your blog, mark.

    in the ‘cultural violence’ category, i am wondering why you included female genital mutilation but not male. do we have a cultural blind spot? yes, little girls are precious enough to protect from knives, but are not little boys as well?

    when we stop cutting little boys, the world will be a far kinder, gentler place.

    • Alex F.

      Agreed. Even if we have trouble seeing medicalized male circumcision as violent, the majority of boys on the planet undergo it as a forced rite of passage.

      • nyeema

        …and that my friend,s is it in a nutshell…if I could do my thesis, it would be on how the male psyche has been wounded, in the big picture, from the violence of circumcision.

        • Gilgamesh

          When the Gods created us, humans they created us exactly in their own image.
          But there was a very small difference, that the Gods born without a foreskin , but we born with foreskin. However the Gods decided, and said; let this be, a small difference between Gods and human.
          Later, the jealous God of the Jews was jealous, and ordered his people to do this circumcision violence. In my opinion there was nothing spiritual, or religious about this , and nothing to do with health. Was this just jealousy, or control over his people? As all the the other Gods said , let this be, a small difference between Gods and mankind.
          We dont know exactly who Jehovah was, some say he was Enlil, Enlil lead the departure of the Gods from Earth about 56o BC, they all left, but Marduk, and his son Nabu stayed behind, And Marduk died later in Babylon. Enlil’s youngest son, Sin the Moon God came back 50 years later, he made the last king of Babylon, and retired with his wife in the Sinai Peninsula, The Islam religion was originated from him, and he may died, or left the Earth Planet later.
          But you can find all this information from the Zecharia Sitchin books; The Earth Chronicles.

  • Loraine

    I have a male friend who would go ballistic if he read this article. He thinks that men are definitely violent but they wouldn’t be like it if the women didn’t start verbal abuse in the home – women are responsible! Yes, women arer guilty of some of the list but the men don’t want to take responsibility for their actions. Would men be like this if women were different?? Good question – research needed.

    • Claudia – IMVA Staff

      Hi Lorraine,

      There is a HUGE difference between verbal abuse and physical abuse. I’m sure in your research you will see many studies showing that there is a cycle of violence that certain types of men go through which leads to physical abuse on the part of the man. Courts hold classes for abusive men to teach them how to take responsibility for their own actions. and how to stop the beatings. While its true that some women can trigger violence in the man, it is not up to her to sit with her lips zipped all the time either. Some women clearly describe the feeling of “walking on eggshells” around their men as a way to try to avoid their wrath. This rarely works. Do a search on the cycle of violence to get some of your answers. And look into the philoosophy of the women who run the battered women’s shelters for more explanations of this cycle of abuse.

      There are a lower number of men who are physically abused by women in much the same way but it is much more rare.

  • Gilgamesh

    In ancient Rome people used to go the arena to watch the slaves getting killed, and the lions
    eating the Christians. And the Romans loved it, it was great entertainment for them.
    But today we just turn on the television, and we, and our children can watch blood and gore for 24 hours, seven days a week. Or we can just watch the news.

  • CAROL

    Violence is not so much a societal issue, as it is a personal character issue.

    Man has been given a character image to believe in and turn to when he discovers how “rotten” his image really is. ONLY, when one sees himself in his true image( rotten) is he able to cry out for a change in himself. Everyone has rotteness to some degree, and it is usually only exposed when one is put into the right circumstances in life for it to become manifest outwardly. Even our thoughts
    teach us that ,if we are honest about them. CHRIST is the perfect character, and the perfect character changer when we come to him with honesty. There is NO hope for mankind to CHANGE its self without his intervention into their lives.

  • Isabel

    Such TRUTH! I have sent the URL to a member of my family who blames me for the inappropriate behaviour of another family member towards me. I have informed the former that no woman, young girl, baby girl ever “asks for it” (rape in any/all its forms).

    My appreciative thanks to you Mark for so courageously laying responsibility at the feet where it belongs. Your article will soon be sent out to my small list with the request that it be forwarded to all their family/friends with a request that f/f do likewise. I think your article needs to “go viral”.

  • grumpy

    We are internally at conflict within ourselves & the external mirrors the internal. This is enhanced with pollutants in air,water,media,etc. We have become passivated with aerial sprayings & electronic emissions. These forms of repressive attacks causes violent outbursts. The earth reacts & reflects our emotional states & behaviors. Medicine people know & feel this.

    • You’re right that our perceptions shape our reality. Which is why it’s so terribly important to reconsider the whole thrust of Dr. Mark’s post.

      I’ve taught non-violence workshops for years and the first misconception I deal with is the incorrect idea that human nature is violent. Untrue. 99% of humanity’s time on earth has been in the nomadic hunter-gatherer era. Leading anthropologists agree that cooperation and sharing were essential for developing healing arts, finding food and shelter, raising children, creating art and ritual. Warlike behavior didn’t begin until the agricultural era, very late in humanity’s sojourn on earth.

      Despite media attention to the contrary, we actually live in a time remarkable for positive developments. Health, intelligence, and peacemaking efforts are on the increase while violence and hunger are on the decrease—across the planet. Here are the facts: http://lauragraceweldon.com/2010/11/05/9-amazing-reasons-to-be-optimistic/ This is not a new Dark Age, nor do such predictions provide any sort of action points for people to build on.

      There ARE many ways to build a more peaceful world. One of the major principles of nonviolence is de-escalation. It works on the personal as well as the global level. Find out what works here: http://lauragraceweldon.com/2011/10/13/get-involved-when-its-none-of-your-business/ We need to build on the positive that we find in ourselves, our families, our communities, and the world. And when it’s time to speak up a long list of what we hate isn’t a springboard for change. It’s looking at our earth and her inhabitants with the eyes of compassion that elicits that change.