Every tear that your heart sheds is a golden drop of sun. I weigh each one in my heart of hearts not knowing from which they all come from.I drink the fluid that runs from your eyes knowing you better with every drop. - HeartHealth
The most obvious confirmation that we are in fact moving in and through the doorway to our deeper beings are our vulnerable tears. Not the tears of self-pity, but the simple welling up feeling that almost always accompanies the crossing and crisscrossing of the barriers between the heart and the head. These tears are more like a divine fluid. The tears of the heart are precious and the pure in heart always cherish the liquid river of tears.
My Tears Flow My Being Opens Totally As your heart fills with feelings expand yourself, prepare to meet the enormity of your own divine being. The tears of the melting heart can melt all barriers between you and your own deeper and higher self.
Dr. Judith Orloff wrote, “For over 20 years as a physician, I’ve witnessed time and again the healing power of tears. Tears are your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety and frustration. Also, you can have tears of joy, say when a child is born, or tears of relief when a difficult time has passed. In my own life, I am grateful when I can cry. It feels cleansing, a way to purge pent up emotions so they don’t lodge in my body as stress symptoms such as fatigue or pain. To stay healthy and release stress, I encourage my patients to cry. For both men and women, tears are a sign of courage, strength and authenticity.”
The heart is the only thing strong enough to cut through the illusions of the mind. Consciousness is stronger than mind stuff, and the experience of pure consciousness is found when we step through the portal of the open and pure heart.
Emotional tears heal the heart by returning us to it. Thus crying makes us feel better even if we are not better or the situation is not improving. Dr. Orloff says, “It is good to cry. It is healthy to cry. This helps to emotionally clear sadness and stress. Crying is also essential to resolve grief, when waves of tears periodically come over us after we experience a loss. Tears help us process the loss so we can keep living with open hearts. Otherwise, we are a set up for depression if we suppress these potent feelings. When a friend apologized for curling up in the fetal position on my floor, weeping, depressed over a failing romance, I told her, ‘Your tears blessed my floor. There is nothing to apologize for.’”
The Intelligence, Love and Power of the heart acts routinely to protect and to foster health on all levels. It is this intelligence and protecting love force that guides our steps and makes all the difference in life.
Deep in the nuclear core of the heart is a love of life and a love of love. Some beings come here to earth with such a strong heart that no circumstance can beat it out of them. In them is a furnace of heart energy and like the sun it will not be denied though they might have to go through great struggles to release and express this energy. Though we all have hearts, the problem with life comes with the repression of the light and radiance of the heart. What we are born with hardly remains by the time we reach adulthood. And the path of regaining what was lost is a path of lifelong learning, growth, and often-painful experience.
There is a quality of heart and pure being that can be called grace. The grace of the heart offers us a quality of being that is healing, animating, invigorating, supporting, nurturing, and comforting. The grace of the heart offers an inner tranquility and peace that the mind by itself rarely possesses.
When we are vulnerable we put away the fancy airs we put on and drop our self-image, which is always hoping to look a little better than we actually feel.
Both western medicine and modern psychology have not been able to come up with solid concepts that explain why some people recover from illness and others do not. There does seem to be a force in most everyone that operates routinely to protect and promote health, whose absence seems to leave us vulnerable. This explains, on some level, why one individual might suffer a relatively mild attack of a disease like ulcerative colitis, another gets chronically crippled by the same disease, and a third might decline rapidly from the first attack and go on to die from the same thing another recovers from quickly.
Many physicians and therapists have noticed that certain people have a strong will to get better. There are some individuals who can become extremely sick, and because of an exceptionally “strong will to grow,” they heal. And there are people who suffer from mild illnesses, who lack this will, and despite the best of treatment and care, languish inside of their illness. They will not show significant improvements, or if they do, will end up bouncing from one illness to another.
The most important key to finding the love of the heart is found in our willingness and ability to be vulnerable.
We cannot begin to flow towards another person or towards our own higher or inner being until the psychic skin covering the heart is removed. The tears of the melting heart are the key to disperse the cobwebs of our mind releasing us into the mysterious depths of our hearts, so let your tears flow to purify yourself of your mental stress and negativity.
When we first open the heart a river of feelings is released which swamps the mind and its habitual defenses. We feel overwhelmed because our usual cool control is lost. The coolness of the separate personality is swept away as familiar ground moves from under our feet. Though most fear this moment, it is such a release, such a lightening of our load. Our real self is freed from the iron grip our ego normally holds over heart consciousness.
When we open our hearts we are surrendering ourselves to the vastness and strength and love of God. We open ourselves and make ourselves vulnerable to a great being that is one with all beings. Open to experience, open to it all. It’s thrilling and sometimes even terrifying. Open to love and this is something else again.
Most of the materials in this essay are from my HeartHealth book, which I wrote 12 years ago when I was living at the ends of the earth in the interior heartland of Brazil, where I am now building my Sanctuary project. Having a strong open heart will help enormously in dealing with world events that are overtaking our race. To open to our pain is to open to our vulnerability, and in reality this is often the easiest and quickest way to expand our capacity for love and joy. The heroic challenge on this earth is to reopen to the totality of our heart after it has closed. It might seem strange connecting pain and suffering to love and joy. But if we cannot experience one we cannot experience the other.